Well, you did it old girl. You kissed a lot of frogs and you finally snared one.
I know he behaved somewhat inappropriately in a car on your first date (who can forget the, the “it’s the gear stick, I promise” incident of 2006) but he really is a good one. He is, and will always be, the best man you’ve ever met.
He’ll be so laid back he’s almost horizontal, it’ll drive you totally insane when you want him to be as grumpy about something as you are. But leave him be. He’s oil on your troubled waters and it’s what you need.
When he asks you if you fancy making some babies. Don’t hang around. Don’t be terrified. The road to get there might not be quite as short as you imagined.
When that road becomes winding and pretty grim. Hang in there. You’re in for some of the saddest and loneliest times of your life. But don’t be scared. You’re in it together and he’ll be unwaivering in his strength. He’ll have total faith that all will be okay in the end and guess what? He’s right and holy heck, it’s better than okay. It’s worth every moment of misery.
Later on, you will make some little people (hurrah!) Stop and notice what an amazing, selfless Dad he is. Watch how naturally he takes to being a father and how your children worship him. Don’t let it pass you by.
He will always love beer and rugby. When England have won (don’t worry, this’ll be rare) and he comes home stinking of ale and falls asleep in his dinner, remember that it’s what makes him, him.
Keep your own friends. It’s good for both of you. Enjoy your time apart so you can value your time together even more.
Remember to smile and put the kettle on when he gets home. No, we’re not in the 1950s but however frazzled you are from your day, being grumpy with him isn’t going to help. He will always try his best to understand, but empathy is hard when he has no idea how it feels to be a worrier. Never forget the weight on his shoulders.
Spend time together. Talk over dinner. Listen. Laugh. Nag a bit less. Accept that you’re not perfect either.
He’ll always give you butterflies when he smiles at you, appreciate it. He’ll always pick his nose, give up on that.
Remember how lucky you are and be grateful every single day.
National Marriage Week runs from 7th February to 14th February.